There is nothing wrong with these feelings, as we can see from the example of our Prophet Muhammad SAW. He (SAW) encountered many bereavements in his lifetime. During the ‘Year of Grief’ Prophet Muhammad SAW lost his beloved uncle, Abu Taalib and his dear wife, Khadeejah RA. What was clear from his example during such difficult times, was that while he was certainly grieving, he demonstrated such beautiful patience. At the time of the death of his son, Ibrahim RA, Muhammad SAW took him in his hands, he kissed him and smelled him. As Ibrahim RA took his last breaths, Allah’s Messenger (SAW) wept. At this, one of the companions said “Even you are weeping!” He (SAW), said “The eyes are shedding tears and the heart is grieved, and we will not say that except what pleases our Lord. O Ibrahim! Indeed, we are grieved by your separation.” [Bukhari]

​While there was grief, Prophet SAW remained graceful in how he handled his grave loss. He remained humble but demonstrated that weeping and sadness at the time of a tragedy, with gracefulness, is human.

From Islamic teachings, we also know that, there is no Muslim that is afflicted with a calamity – and  he says what Allah has commanded him to say, “To Allah we belong and to Him we shall return! O Allah, give me the rewards of (being patient over) this calamity, and grant me something better than it,” – except that Allah will give him something better to replace it. [Muslim] And so while the idea of being patient at the time of losing a loved one may seem impossible, there is huge reward promised by Allah. We are all the creation of Allah and we will all return to Him. Our loved ones are a trust from Allah for a fixed amount of time. The separation is a temporary one, only to be united once again forever and ever in the hereafter.

May Allah grant Jannah to all the deceased, and patience to all the bereaved. Ameen.